Last month the exam results came out, and no doubt there were many disappointed young students who didn’t get the results they wanted and hoped for and are suffering the pangs of disappointment, especially if it meant they couldn’t continue on their hoped for career path. I understand only too well, as I didn’t get the results I had hoped for and it meant i couldn’t go to University as I thought was my best option for a great career. However with hindsight, I am grateful now for the door being shut to me. Going to University would have put too great a strain on my parents, as in South Africa you paid your University fees, and there weren’t the sort of part-time jobs to help a student, or even bank loans to ease the burden.
Another reason I am grateful, is, my life took an unexpected turn as a result of my not going to University, and I married very young, and had three delightful children, who despite the awfulness of going through divorce, have grown up and given me great joy, and very special grandchildren.
“In a world in which knowledge is imperfect, incomplete, and impermanent, the main challenge is not so much how to relish success and pleasant surprises, which of course do happen, but mostly how to cope with disappointment. In the individual context …The Moral Liberal”
For all the students who haven’t managed to get the grades they wanted or need to continue on their career plan, there are other paths that i am sure if you really seek hard you will find. The trick is not allowing yourself to get stuck in the rut of ‘if only’, find something else and give it your best shot. When I look back at my life, I realize that the path that was mapped out for me, even though it wasn’t a path I wanted or desired, was exactly the right path for me and my family, and I can only put that down to My Heavenly Father knowing exactly what was the right path for me, and making sure I found it.
If you are interested in reading a book on Dealing with Disappointment than click on the link colored in yellow. In the same vein if you are interested in reading a book on how to deal with grief as well as disappointment called From Heartbreak to Happiness by Aurora Winters than click on the link in yellow.