This article on how stress can affect your children is an indicator of how our modern way of living, encouraging mothers to have a career and work outside the home, can have an adverse affect on our children. There is a balance. I found when I was a working Mum there were pros and cons. On the one hand I liked the stimulation of being out of the home and the challenge of the job. On the other hand it was a great struggle trying to give my children good quality time and attention, and there were times I was just too tired to really cope.
At this point in my life I was a single parent Mum, I had to divorce my husband and the stress of that was unbelievable. My parents stood by me and because I was living in South Africa where there was no governmental help, I had no option but to return home with the children. It was a difficult time for all of us, but at least my children had my parents when i couldn't be with them. I later married again, came to the United Kingdom and was able to become a stay-at-home wife and give my full time and attention to my children and husband, when he came home. My husband worked abroad as a contractor, giving me this wonderful gift of becoming a proper wife and mother.
"There's a small but intriguing body of evidence suggesting that beyond a child's disposition, a parent's stress level can affect a child's very makeup, including his or her risk of mood disorders, addiction, and even disorders like ADHD and autism. It …"
Our family and our children are very important to us. It is all we really have. Looking back with hindsight there are many things I wish I could have changed. But I am very thankful that I was given the opportunity to give my children time and attention and support in all their interests, as far as I possible could do. But I do wish I that I was a calmer person, especially whilst my children were growing up.