It is always a pleasure to be in the company of a calm and relaxed person, and it seems to me that just being more calm is a wonderful aid to helping you cope with whatever life throws at you. But the author of the article advises you to meditate in order to help you become calm and serene. I just want to tell you that meditation doesn’t always work, I tried it during my thirties when I was suffering from acute cluster migraine, and stress was definitely a factor that increased the pain levels. I found I couldn’t sit still and it seemed to me that all my negative thoughts came up and actually made me more distressed. I later became a Christian and found that prayer did it for me, I have a quiet time daily with the Lord, and it sets me up for the day. But I also have had incredible answers to prayer, so it isn’t a time that I felt was wasted, but is a time that has positive results. Somehow when you are thanking the Lord for all His goodness and love, and you realize just how much you have to be thankful about, it helps you change your negativity into calmness and serenity.
If meditation or prayer isn’t for you, I would advocate a quiet time, a me time, away from the uproar of family life, if at all possible, and sitting quietly with soft music, or an enjoyable book will help.
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The author of the above article also recommends smiling as a help to overcome stress. He talks of smiling using muscles that will trigger your limbic system. I have to be honest that is the first time I have heard this, and will research it so I can understand it better. But I have noticed that people who smile at one, do cheer you up, but sadly amongst young people, say from the age of twelve, that it isn’t the done thing to smile. I can’t understand why because smiling can not only cheer someone else up but generally it helps you to feel brighter and more positive. I have also noticed that coming back from countries whose peoples are poverty stricken, the people have wonderful smiles, and coming back to the UK I used to notice how few people smiled, which is an awful shame, when you realize how well-off we all are, in comparison.
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