Why Do I Feel So Tired? Hormonal Balance, Adrenal and Thyroid Dysfunction

At the end of winter I find I seem to be lacking vitality, always tired, and find it difficult to get to grips with the simplest things.  This winter is no exception.  I sometimes wonder if lack of sunlight is a factor in all this, so I thought I would see what other people think about the ‘winter blues’ as I call them, or the horrid feeling of chronic fatigue.

 Lisa Schilling does explain why we feel like this, and gives a few simple things we can do to help us get going again.  I did wonder if I suffered from low-thyroid, but if I do, it isn’t low enough to warrant medication.  However I have added kelp tablets into my daily supplements, and that has helped a lot. A reasonable amount of exercise is essential for feeling well and vital, because if your heart muscle gets flabby it won’t be pumping blood around your body efficiently, and it doesn’t take much to become unfit.  Sleep is another area where chronic fatigue can set in, and as you get older this can become a problem.  I find if I exercise, and then have to go out and do something that requires walking, I come home and fall asleep, and then my night sleep is poor, and if I don’t take care insomnia can creep in.  i apologize that there wasn’t an actual You Tube video of Lisa Shilling, but Dr Agrios talks about the problems of Chronic Fatigue due to Adrenal Exhaustion, and adds some interesting points.

Why Do I Feel So Tired? Hormonal Balance, Adrenal and Thyroid Dysfunction

by Lisa Schilling

In Part I of this series, “Glands, Hormones & Chemical Messengers: Restoring Balance,” we looked at how glands secrete hormones, and their vital role in health and wellbeing. In Part II, we will focus on thyroid and adrenal function, outlining how to detect and balance common sub-acute or subclinical hormonal dysfunction.

The adrenal glands lie above each kidney. Their main purpose is to produce the right amount of stress hormones, allowing you to respond appropriately to perceived stressors. There is an intrinsic link between the thyroid and adrenal glands, creating a negative feedback loop, often referred to as the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal-thyroid (HPAT) axis, or sometimes simply HPA. It acts as the body’s stress management system, which ultimately controls the level of cortisol and other stress-related hormones. HPA suppression can result in fatigue, depression, dehydration, and decreased immune function.

Signaling for release of these hormones starts in the hypothalamus, an area of the brain that sends hormonal messages to the pituitary, a tiny gland in the brain. Any excessive metabolic activity is perceived as a stress by the adrenal glands, and this affects the actions of the hypothalamus, pituitary gland, and thyroid. When the adrenal glands are too weak to handle the stress of the body’s normal metabolic energy, they force a down-regulation of energy production, and you feel fatigued.

The pituitary gland also plays a vital role in regulating body function. It is called the “master gland,” because of its control over the activity of most other hormone-secreting glands. The thyroid is considered the “master gland of metabolism.” Located on the neck, this small butterfly-shaped gland’s main purpose is to produce the right amount of thyroid hormone, which sends a message to cells on how fast to burn energy and produce proteins.

A dysfunctional thyroid can affect every aspect of health, and in particular metabolism and energy use. This hormonal misfiring will create vague and uncomfortable symptoms, such as fatigue, exhaustion, depression, brain fog, weight gain, dry skin and hair, cold intolerance, constipation, muscle cramps, menstrual problems and fertility issues as seen in an under-active thyroid. An over-active thyroid can cause nervousness, irritability, racing heart, panic disorder, shaky hands, brittle hair, sweating, heat intolerance, insomnia, and muscular weakness.

Thyroid and adrenal dysfunction create low metabolic energy in the body, which interferes with the communication between cells and their ability to receive nutrients and hormones. Since every process inside the body requires energy, when the body does not have enough for proper functioning, each will malfunction in its own distinctive way, resulting in unwanted symptoms.

Nutrition plays a key role in all gland/hormone function. Try to limit, or avoid:

 

  1. Gluten
  2. Soy
  3. “White” food such as refined sugar, flour, rice, and grains
  4. Food sensitivities or allergies
  5. Highly processed foods
  6. Carbohydrate heavy meals

 

These small changes in diet create the valuable nutritional support that can help rebalance glandular health, and reduce symptoms. Because even the healthiest diet cannot supply the complete spectrum of vitamins, minerals, and phytonutrients needed for optimal balance, it is recommended that a multivitamin and mineral supplement be taken daily to support gland/hormone health. Look for supplements including beta-carotene, zinc, copper, Vitamin C, Vitamin E, Vitamin B6, riboflavin, niacin, and others.

Many nutrients and herbs, including iodine, selenium, sage, ashwagandha, bacopa, ginseng, and others, help the body manage the adverse affects of fluctuations in hormones. Phytotherapy involves the use of plant extracts to provide natural support for hormonal health. Daily use of a phytonutrient support formula has been shown to alleviate moderate to severe symptoms in some users.

To allow for more optimal thyroid function, try consuming:

 

  1. Adequate amounts of protein at every meal
  2. Foods rich in selenium
  3. Foods rich in iodine
  4. Whole natural foods
  5. Balanced nutritional vitamin, mineral, and phytonutrients supplements
  6. Cruciferous vegetables, such as cabbage, broccoli, cauliflower, kale, turnips, or Brussels sprouts, cooked or steamed to reduce the goitrogens found in the raw version.

 

Maintaining emotional wellness plays an important part in overall hormonal balance. Because of the effect of stress on hormonal function, finding ways to de-stress, unwind and deal with tension are essential. Things such as reading, yoga, prayer, meditation, or focused relaxation can be better than medication to help you stay in balance.

Exercise also plays an important role in glandular health, by allowing the body to work at optimum efficiency. Because fatigue is such a problem, finding a gentle form of exercise that you can do consistently, and that you find enjoyable, will improve not only body functioning, but also mood.

From this overview, you can see the vital role that glands and hormones play in how you feel each day. Learning to support your hormonal health can make a significant difference in your mood, comfort, and energy levels. For some, the cure may seem more painful than the cause, and they will continue the lifestyle choices that create their hormone/gland dysfunction.

Nevertheless, for those who are sick and tired, of feeling sick and tired, here is yet another reason to manage your stress, eat smarter, move more and take nutritional supplements. It is not all in your head! Invest in yourself daily. Managing your hormonal balance, by consistently supporting glandular function, will pay dividends in your daily energy, attitude, and mood.

“Wellness Matters” Article Series by Lisa Schilling RN, BSN, CPT
Speaker, Writer, Wellness Coach & Consultant

Lisa Schilling is the author of “The Get REAL Guide to Health and Fitness-FIVE STEPS to Create Your Own Personal Wellness Plan.” She juggles life as a doting wife and the mother of three boys, who keep her feet firmly planted on the ground!

Lisa is a Registered Nurse, author and recovering pageant queen, who spreads hope with her Get REAL approach to wellness. She empowers women, caregivers and groups to unleash their fullest potential by helping them to see their true beauty and discover their REAL value.

As an outspoken advocate for wellness and prevention, her motto is: “See one, do one, teach one!” Visit Lisa’s website http://www.getrealwellnesssolutions.com to claim your FREE Bonus Gifts!

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I have taken note of what Lisa says about avoiding gluten, soy, white or refined carbohydrates, highly processed food, any foods one is intolerant to, or even allergic to and carbohydrate heavy meals.  Interestingly enough I struggle with all of that, and have found that reducing these things have made a difference, but I probably need to eliminate rather than avoid these foods, especially carbohydrates.  I think they are the hardest ones to get rid of, but I have noticed an excessive thirst when I do have a ‘heavy carbohydrate’ meal.  The other foods she recommends like eating good protein for every meal, and eating sufficient selenium ( did you know that one brazil nut a day will provide your full requirement of selenium) for foods sufficient in iodine, I have added kelp tablets, and the rest is mainly whole foods, good fruit and vegetable intake.

 I like what Lisa said about maintaining out emotional balance and not allowing ourselves to become overstressed.  I find having a quiet time is an essential tool to help me maintain my emotional balance, but keeping mentally active, having a few goals in life are also important.  Sadly I have known too many people who have become mentally ill, and a common denominator has been ‘too much time on their hands’.  These days if due to economic factors you find yourself out of work, it is really hard, but for your own health, try and fill that time with something that is stimulating or creative, for your own emotional health sake.  If you want to read a book called Overcoming Adrenal Fatigue: How to Restore Hormonal Balance and Feel Renewed, Energized, and Stress Free than click on the link colored in yellow.

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Stress: How your inability to handle the ‘minor hassles’ of life affects your …

Stress takes its toll on our health, that is something we are all aware of, but just how much it does  and what we can do to help us handle stress is not something most of us understand.  For example did you know that cortisol a hormone produced during stress is one of the causes for belly fat, or if you are a diabetic, for raising blood sugar levels, not forgetting raising blood pressure which leads to heart disease, or stroke.  

The article below tells you of the dangers of stress, and not necessarily the major stress factors like family problems, or unemployment, but unpaid bills, road rage, taking offence at people, deadlines at work can also cause long term stress health problems.  When I read the article I  realized how important it is to keep ‘ones cool’ in all ways and thought about the two types of people mentioned in the article, and how important it is to do all one can not to allow one to become chronically stressed.

Stress: How your inability to handle the ‘minor hassles’ of life affects your …

“In a key finding, “minor hassles” of daily life can take a toll on health, independent of what chronic stress can cause. “Daily stressors are less severe than chronic stressors, but they are nonetheless associated with adverse same-day physical health …”
http://www.post-gazette.com/stories/news/health/stress-how-your-inability-to-handle-the-minor-hassles-of-life-affects-your-health-662769/

 

This article doesn’t really deal in what needs to be done to help one to change ones attitude and become a Teflon person rather than a Velcro person.  Stress seems to be very much part of the modern way of life, and I thought of the closing paragraph of the article – people suffering from stress are more likely to smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, sleep badly and eat ‘junk food’.

Dealing with stress means one has to take charge of the choices in our life, and even when it seems impossible, one can make small changes, taking good exercise is a start, because that will help with insomnia.  Changing ones diet and eating sensibly, not processed food, but plenty of fresh vegetables, salads, good meat (not processed) and staying away from sugary foods which mostly consist of empty calories and raise insulin levels which play havoc with your ability to remain cool.  I once read an article on how a school in the Bronx area of New York helped children to behave better just by changing their dietary habits.  We are what we eat, and good food, good sleep and good exercise helps towards lowering the effects that stress can have on our health, and very importantly reduce belly fat which can cause so many negative health problems.

Taking small steps, not trying to do everything all at once, will help you overcome in this area.  Drastic dieting is stressful and difficult to sustain.  I gave up cigarettes by not smoking in the mornings, waiting until the afternoon before i would allow myself a cigarette, and then pushing the time out further and further.  i did it slowly and haven’t had a cigarette since 1986, as once i became a Christian I lost the desire to smoke.  As a Christian I find having a ‘quiet time with my Heavenly Father’ very helpful, as I was a definite Velcro subject, and today am struggling with the ongoing health problems that being a Velcro subject has brought about. I am thankful to say today that I have learned to put my trust into the Only One who can help me, speak to Him about the problem and leave it with Him.  It has helped me so much to turn from looking at the ‘whatif’s to being expectant on how the problem will be sorted out, from looking at the dark to looking towards the light and being willing to wait until the answer to prayer has come.

I liked what Dr Whiting said about living in the ‘now’, rather than in the future and worrying about what afterall may never come about.  After my divorce when i was very young, left with two children to bring up, someone said to me, you do not know what is round the next corner, and I didn’t.  But round the corner I met my present husband and emigrated to the United Kingdom and have a completely different life style to what I had in South Africa, and I am so thankful for that. A lifestyle that has also helped change me from being a Velcro person to becoming a Teflon person and I am so grateful for that.

If you are interested in reading a book called Bite Size Chunks to Success – How To Reduce Stress and Begin Managing Stress and Controlling It Once And For All than click on the link colored yellow.

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9 Strategies to Sharpen Your Memory

Having a great memory is such a wonderful asset in life but as you get older memory definitely decreases so it is good to know that there are strategies you can do to sharpen your memory. When you have a great memory it can help you in so many ways, your chosen career, your social life, your personality, it all helps to make you who you are.  When we are at school having a good memory helps so much in getting better grades, and it helps greatly in the exam experience. You can enhance your memory with little things.

I found when I was studying that if I read the the work I was studying, then spoke it out aloud and closed my books and wrote down everything I could remember, this helped me greatly as I was using my three senses, my eyes – reading, my ears – listening to me speaking the words, and then writing all I could remember.  This seemed to really help me reproduce the necessary facts I needed for the exams.

I wasn’t born with a great memory, and today I struggle to remember names and faces, and things i need to do.  Sometimes I get concerned that I am getting alzheimers, but then I think of Albert Einstein, one of the cleverest men who ever lived, sometimes didn’t know why he was on a train, going to a place he didn’t know and didn’t know why he was going there, and that makes me feel a whole lot better about my memory loss.  But as we get older and can’t remember things, it makes life a whole lot duller, and more difficult.  Its when we start to repeat ourselves, and become a bore, that life becomes very difficult indeed.  And quality of life definitely is decreased.

9 Strategies to Sharpen Your Memory

“Have Some Food (and Drink) for Thought … “Meditation improves your concentration and focus, which benefits memory,” says Dharma Singh Khalsa, the medical director and the president of the Alzheimer’s Research & Prevention Foundation, in Tucson.Yahoo! News (blog)”

http://shine.yahoo.com/healthy-living/9-strategies-sharpen-memory-173200140.html

 

So we need to do everything we can to help us not to lose our memories, because there is no doubt that eventually if we don’t try and stem memory loss  it will lead to old age degenerative diseases like Alzheimers or Dementia.  Quite frankly I think those must be the most terrifying scenarios, as then you lose your independence and your personality. Hopefully you can put some of the advice into your own life, and put a stop to memory loss in your life.

In the above article there is a paragraph that talks of the benefits of meditation, and whilst I don’t go along with what is written there, because I am a Christian, I will say prayer has helped me enormously in life.  I cannot manage without my ‘quiet time with the Lord’, and I guess in a way that is a form of meditation.  I am alarmed at transcendental meditation, where one quietly repeats a ‘mantra’ or sound over and over again.  I know this as it was something I got into because I was very ill with migraine attacks, and was told it would be a great help to stopping these attacks.  But it didn’t help at all with my migraine attacks but when I became a Christian, I was wonderfully healed of migraine and haven’t had an attack since.  Transcendental meditation didn’t do anything either for my feelings of anxiety or depression, but prayer definitely helps.  And when one has wonderful answers to prayer, nothing can equal the joy of knowing the touch of the Lord upon ones life.  If you are interested in reading a book called The Memory Book: The Classic Guide to Improving Your Memory at Work, at School, and at Play Review than click on the link colored in yellow.

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How to Get Rid of Belly Fat to Get a Flat Stomach and Six Pack Abs

How to Get Rid of Your Belly Fat. We all know how unattractive being overweight is, and how this can give you low self esteem, especially if you are carrying the weight on your tummy or belly area.  What I didn’t know or realize was that this overweight has a greater health hazard than if you carry your excess weight on your thighs and your buttocks.

My daughter who was born with poly cystic ovaries, that developed into poly cystic ovarian disease. has always carried her weight around her tummy.  But sadly, because of poor medical procedures, she now has diabetes 3 (stressed pancreatic type diabetes) and she has to get rid of the excess tummy fat, because the more tummy fat she has, the more that fat presses onto her pancreas and causes it to work even more inefficiently.

The trouble is she has dieted and dieted, to the point where her legs have gone too thin, but she still carries too much fat around her waist, and the diabetic nurses are on her case, and I can’t help wondering will she be able to get rid of the belly fat, without doing harm to her overall health. To me, she is always tired and doesn’t have great energy, and simply put, if you don’t put fuel into your tank, you or your car will stop.  It is a problem.  Hence my study of How to Get Rid of Belly Fat.

How to Get Rid of Belly Fat to Get a Flat Stomach and Six Pack Abs

“Low calorie diets don’t work because your body soon adapts to it and may even set off the starvation mode causing you to store fat. These types of diets have …ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Get-Rid-of-Belly-Fat…”
http://ezinearticles.com/%3FHow-to-Get-Rid-of-Belly-Fat-to-Get-a-Flat-Stomach-and-Six-Pack-Abs%26id%3D7466899

 

Several things I have discovered during this research into How to Get Rid of Belly Fat, is make sure you eat single ingredient food.  For example food how it was originally created, not processed by man. It seems to me that when man messes around with food than the health problems creep in.  Exercise is paramount if you are dieting, because if you don’t exercise you will lose lean muscle tissue and not fat, and the next time you try to diet you will find it very difficult indeed to lose weight, that is where I am today.  It is lean muscle tissue that burns fat.  

In the article above there were links to other articles by different authors on the subject, and one that intrigued me was ‘Lose Weight Naturally’, and the website was http://www.RealDose.com/WeightLoss.  They did have information on what hormones are preventing one from losing the belly fat and suggested supplements to help you overcome.  But as much as I would love to have these supplements, I have to say I hesitate to go down this way, but I had never heard of this and so I am intrigued.

If anyone out there has tried this and can really recommend it than I would love to hear from you as getting rid of belly fat is very difficult and there is much information out there that hype and nonsense. The page called ‘Contact Me’ contains my email address and I will reply if anyone contacts me on this subject.

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Are Food Allergies Making You Fat?

Food intolerance can cause many health problems, none of which are life threatening, but can put a damper on your life. My family have a history of food intolerances, indeed from the age of 25 years I suffered acute cluster migraines, and although my doctor absolutely said the migraines weren’t as a result of food intolerances, it was proved that they were  the direct cause of the migraines and they were the 4 deadly C’s, caffeine, chocolate, cheese and citrus and the last included tomatoes.  When I cut these foods out I could cope with the migraines until I was healed.

Nowadays I know that I am sensitive.  I did have a food intolerance test done a few years ago and there was a list, bananas, onions, barley, wheat, yeast, milk and cabbage and others that I can’t remember now.  I did cut those out, but now I know I have more to cut out, and wheat is the main culprit, which gives me dreadful indigestion and nausea if I have to eat it, especially in the form of bread, which has the added yeast in it to upset my digestion.

My weight this last year has suddenly increased and I find I am having to look again at what i am eating.  But as one ages dieting becomes a more tricky problem, especially as one isn’t able to exercise as one used to.

My daughter also has the same problems, but she is managing to tackle the problem, but she is diabetic so she has had to get to grips with her eating habits, but it has paid off handsomely as she has lost over 5 stone or 70 lbs in weight, and kept it off for over 5 years.

Are Food Allergies Making You Fat?

“Lauren said pinpointing allergies is important during weight loss because foods can actually prevent our bodies from losing weight. Since I was showing signs of possible allergies, Lauren said taking a food sensitivity panel would offer insight …Shape Magazine (blog)”
http://www.shape.com/blogs/weight-loss-diary/are-food-allergies-making-you-fat

 

If you are struggling with over weight problems and bloating than do consider this article and see if this is the problem for any overweight or bloating problems you may be suffering from. Today we live in a world where even our food is polluted, and the soil it is grown in is depleted so it is no wonder many people are struggling with food intolerances or even allergies.

It is said that ones health is ones wealth, and if we lose it because we fail to protect it, the quality of our life is very diminished.  As you get older you realize that good health starts in the digestive system, and sadly we are what we eat.  But today it isn’t easy to live a busy life and manage to eat healthily, it does take some organising, but it is truly worth it.  Our poor bodies can be bombarded with all the chemicals that come with the food we eat, and then the medication we take to try and alleviate the problems, not to mention the polluted air we breathe. If you are interested in reading about a book on food intolerances called The Food Intolerance Bible than click on the link colored in yellow.

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Wellness 101: lose weight the healthy way

Well, we have made it into the New Year, and I would like to take the opportunity to wish all readers a Very Happy healthy and Prosperous New Year. But unfortunately some of us will have gained weight through the great Christmas and New Year celebrations. and will be looking for a way to shed those extra pounds.  Some of us who have allowed ourselves to gain considerable weight over the years will be making resolutions to go on diet and lose those extra pounds.  Some of us, especially in the U.K. will be agast at hearing that some councils will be reducing benefits unless we lose weight.
So how do we go about it.  The following is an article that may help you not to go down what can be a dangerous path leading to complications in other health areas when you decide to lose weight.  It warns you again radical diets, and also against taking pills etc.  To be sensible and exercise whenever you can.  Apparently just getting up from your chair and walking around a few minutes as many times a day as you can, will actually help.
 If you are fortunate enough to have a treadmill, cross trainer, airwalker at home, than make up your mind to use it, it is much easier to keep to that commitment than finding the time to go out to the gym.  Unless of course the gym is a special social time for you, in which case you will enjoy it and make the time for it.  But again on television, the presenter was speaking about full gyms in January, and empty gyms the rest of the year, and often you sign a year contract to join, and often this contract cannot be broken.
Anyway I hope you read the article, and that it will help you make up your mind to lose weight in a gentle controlled way, that will enhance your wellbeing and not cause other health issues.

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Wellness 101: lose weight the healthy way

“They are in newspapers, magazines and TV. They’re on the sides of Facebook, Google and YouTube. “Get a skinny boost.” “No surgery needed.” “Lose weight and learn to keep it off.” Without even realizing it, we are not only constantly bombarded with …”
http://www.northern-iowan.org/wellness-101-lose-weight-the-healthy-way-1.2787346

 

Sadly I have found that even the best intentions and healthy lifestyles can be messed up with taking holidays and eating out with friends and families.  Whilst I was on holiday on a certain delightful island I was actually horrified to see how many large ladies and men there were.  I am classed as obese (how I hate that word) but actually felt quite slim when I was out there.
 
When I first emigrated to the UK in 1970 my weight was reasonable, I have never been slim, I bypassed that at the age of 12years, but I wasn’t too bad.  However when I did put on some weight, due I think to a more inactive lifestyle in the UK I found that there was very few clothes to be purchased UK size 18 then, but now UK size 18 is found everywhere, and in fact you gan get clothes easily right up to size 24UK sizing, and that tells me everything.
Obesity is on the increase, and it is no longer an age related disease, so many youngsters are affected by it, and I wonder if it is because we are eating out more frequently, and therefore not in control of what we are eating.
 
 I had a heart attack at the age of 53 years, and was constantly told not to eat fatty foods, so embarked upon a low fat diet, with pleanty of fibre, fruit, salads and vegetables.  Today I have health problems that are because of the low fat diet, I in my enthusiasm managed to strip my diet of virtually all fat, and certainly no added fats etc. Today the research is found, that it is trans-fatty acids that do the damage, they are found in all foods that are baked (biscuits and cakes etc) or fried or bread-crumb coated, or battered.  So I avoid those like the plague, but do eat some foods that have fat naturally in them.  
 
I also realize that drinking fizzy drinks like coca-cola etc does a great deal of harm, if you have the normal variety you are drinking in 15 teaspoons of sugar, if you drink the non-sugar variety you are drinking artificial sweetners that have just as awful health problems.
To all who are trying to get rid of unwanted weight I send my very best wishes, and if any of you are really successful please email me at the email address on the ‘Contact Me’ page and let me know.  Right now I wish I need never dine out again, but it is not fair on my husband.
If you want to know more about elliptical trainers, or other home gym equipment than visit my website http://equipment.healthandfitness4you.net, and check out the latest article on Schwinn 431 Elliptical Trainers. If the Schwinn 431 Elliptical Trainer isn’t for you than if you click on the link that takes you to the Amazon website, and if you scroll down the page you will see other home exercise machines that may suit your needs better.  At the end it is all down to preferences.

 
 

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Coping with Disappointment

Last month the exam results came out, and no doubt there were many disappointed young students who didn’t get the results they wanted and hoped for and are suffering the pangs of disappointment, especially if it meant they couldn’t continue on their hoped for career path.  I understand only too well, as I didn’t get the results I had hoped for and it meant i couldn’t go to University as I thought was my best option for a great career.  However with hindsight, I am grateful now for the door being shut to me.  Going to University would have put too great a strain on my parents, as in South Africa you paid your University fees, and there weren’t the sort of part-time jobs to help a student, or even bank loans to ease the burden.

Another reason I am grateful, is, my life took an unexpected turn as a result of my not going to University, and I married very young, and had three delightful children, who despite the awfulness of going through divorce, have grown up and given me great joy, and  very special grandchildren.

 

Coping with Disappointment

“In a world in which knowledge is imperfect, incomplete, and impermanent, the main challenge is not so much how to relish success and pleasant surprises, which of course do happen, but mostly how to cope with disappointment. In the individual context …The Moral Liberal”
http://www.themoralliberal.com/2012/08/21/coping-with-disappointment/

 

For all the students who haven’t managed to get the grades they wanted or need to continue on their career plan, there are other paths that i am sure if you really seek hard you will find.  The trick is not allowing yourself to get stuck in the rut of ‘if only’, find something else and give it your best shot.  When I look back at my life, I realize that the path that was mapped out for me, even though it wasn’t a path I wanted or desired, was exactly the right path for me and my family, and I can only put that down to My Heavenly Father knowing exactly what was the right path for me, and making sure I found it.

If you are interested in reading a book on Dealing with Disappointment than click on the link colored in yellow.  In the same vein if you are interested in reading a book on how to deal with grief as well as disappointment called From Heartbreak to Happiness by Aurora Winters than click on the link in yellow.

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How Do You Find Happiness? How to Be Happy

Happiness seems to be what we are all looking for, but really it relates to happenings in ones life.  For me it is a very elusive state, but I gave up chasing being ‘happy’ a long time ago, I found that being thankful for all the blessings in my life helped immeasurably.  At the end of the day material stuff never brings happiness, because once you have it, you will then be looking for the next shiny object to fix your attention on. I included the you tube video below of Ken Dodd singing his signature tune ‘Happiness’ for two reasons.  The words just capture the jist of what is written in this article, and the children’s smiling faces say it all. But it is difficult to maintain your happiness feelings when you are in pain, and that is another reason for doing everything you can to stay fit and healthy.

How Do You Find Happiness? How to Be Happy

by Nicholas Powiull

The title of this article is “How do you find happiness?” since this is exactly what we all are seeking to find. It seems we humans get the impression that happiness is something that can be found. As a result, we are all looking for happiness based on what we find. What is happiness? We assume it is something we can discover. We base how to be happy on the experience of ‘what it WILL BE like’.

In other words, we relate happiness to our idea(s) of what we think happiness is or what we feel we need to find in order to experience happiness:

“If only I had enough money, then I could final be happy.”

“If only I found my soul mate… ”

“If only I had a job I liked… ”

“If only… ”

Whatever it might be for each individual, we all have our: “If only… then I could be happy.”

Then it happens… we get what we think we need to be happy! And we do feel genuine happiness… but only for a belief moment. When the moment fades, a new idea forms in our mind and we start seeking happiness again.

We assume that we found the happiness only because we got what we wanted and once we got what we wanted, then we were happy. Consequentially, coming from that perspective, we believe it was what we found that fulfilled us with happiness.

However, if what we found TRULY give us happiness, then the happiness would not fade, as long as what we found remained.

We fail to notice what is really happening and where the correlation between fulfilled ideas and happiness resides.

All we notice is that once we successfully attained our goal, that we felt fulfilled. Yet, here is the secret… we felt fulfilled the brief moment that what we desired, we no longer desired. In other words, our idea of what we thought we needed to be happy was nothing more than that… an idea. Once we dropped that idea (since we seemly got what we desired) we felt authentically fulfilled and happy. Do you see where the correlation between fulfilled ideas and happiness resides?

The problem with desires and trying to fulfill them, is that once a desire is attained, a new desire rises in its place. Leaving you with a very brief feeling of happiness. Do you see the endless cycle?

Now, I am not asking you to drop all your ideas of what you think you desire in order to be happy, that would be impossible since ‘not desiring anything’ is a desire itself. The only reason anybody would try to drop all desires is if they read something like this and are trying to drop all desires in order to be happy. The root is the desire to be happy. A desire in itself that can never be fulfilled, satisfied, or attained since seeking happiness is exactly what is causing the search for it.

It seems ironic and impossible to be happy, right? How do you find happiness when trying to find happiness is the seemly core function that pushes it away? Well, believe it or not, this is very good news!

How is trying to find happiness, which is an impossible goal, good news? You do NOT have to do anything or attain anything to be happy. That’s good news for everybody… no matter who you are, how wealthy you are, how much you own, where you live, etc… you can still be happy under any circumstance since you are not dependent upon any desire or any thing. In fact, it is our birth right and natural state of being to be happy.

Being happy is just about being. Most of us have been trying to ‘do happiness’. “Once I DO this, I can BE happy”. Happiness is a natural pure feeling from being and has nothing to do with doing. We ask ‘How do I find happiness?” but finding is a doing, you must search (doing) in order to find what is sought. The real question is “How to BE happy?” but BEING is state of resting. We are human BEINGS, we can NOT BE anything else, no matter what we DO and all states of BEING are natural to the human BEING.

Have you ever noticed that people who are confident are not DOING confidence, they are BEING confident? They are not searching for confidence, they are simply being it. They didn’t even find confidence, they are naturally being that as what they are.

Have you ever noticed that people who can fall asleep really fast, they don’t try to fall asleep, they can’t even explain it… they just simply lay there and fall asleep. Yet, people who try to fall asleep have the biggest problems falling asleep. Falling asleep is a state of being. And as I said, all states of being are natural to every human being. It’s the trying to be in a particular state of being that seemly gives the opposite.

Are you starting to understand what it takes to be happy? Trying to explain it is like trying to explain how to be human. There is no ‘how to guide’ on how to be human since it’s natural to be what we already are. The only problem that would get in the way of being human is if we had an idea that we needed something else outside of what we are in order to be a human being. “If only… then I can finally be human”. Drop the idea(s) and you notice that you were already human, it was the idea(s) that was the only seemly block. You can’t notice your humanness if you believe you are not that already. Happiness is exactly the same thing. It is a direct feeling experience of noticing what is already here.

It seems we stop noticing what is already here when we get lost in our ideas. Here is an exercise to explain. Imagine for moment that you had everything you ever thought you needed to be happy. Close your eyes and imagine it. Now, notice the difference. You may imagine your life looks different, your surrounds look different, but the FEELING of what is different, is what makes the ONLY seemly REAL difference. Feelings give rise to the colors in our experience, without them, everything is experienced as the same, numb, null, dull, void, empty, nothing, etc…

Therefore, the only difference between the reality you have and the reality you desire is in thought. “Now that I have these things, I am finally happy” and that thought produces a related feeling (based on how real that thought seems to be). Yet, what is thought, but an idea?

Happiness is real, our ideas of happiness are not.

To read more about what it takes to let our ideas go, please continue reading: “The Listening: It wants us to face every idea we hold“.

Mr. Powiull has spend over 30 years dedicated to answering the big questions in life. As a special offer, he is offering his eBook FREE of charge called “50 ways to a Positive Consciousness” which can be INSTANTLY downloaded here: http://consciousflex.blogspot.com/p/50-ways-to-positive-consciousness-by.html

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I thought Mr Powell had a very interesting exposition that happiness comes from being happy, and that searching for happiness will actually take us away from being happy. When we are focused on ourself, and having our own way, will never bring happiness.  But when we are focused on others, and helping those in need, it does relieve those niggling ‘oh woe is me’ feelings. As a Christian, I have found a greater emotion than happiness, I call it joy, and it comes from appreciating everything, good and difficult, that is Father’s plan and purpose for my life.  The joy of the Lord is my strength.  I have a dear friend and she had a huge banner with those words on it attached to her garden fence. She has a most wonderful sense of humour and a great capacity to make me laugh, and laughter is so very precious.  If you want Happiness Now than click on the link colored in yellow.

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Laughter truly is the best medicine!

I once read an article how a doctor would advocate watching comedy as an aid to feeling better, and he would agree that just the act of laughing will actually help your immune system, will create more endorphins, and all this aids in your body recovering quicker from illness.  But could laughter actually help in preventing illness.  Well the author of this article certainly thinks so.  I just think of the old saying ‘laugh, and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone.

Laughter truly is the best medicine!

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These days are full of doom and gloom on the television, almost to the point of not wanting to even listen to the news.  I really miss the old sit-comedies of the past, they were so delightful, and very funny.  You could always rely on them to give you a good laugh.  Somehow things have changed and I have to confess that very few new films of television shows are, for me, funny.  I know humour is a very personal thing, and what makes one man laugh doesn’t the next, but when one does see a funny film it is a great joy.  I have a friend whose Mum had the most infectious laugh, only trouble is she would always laugh at the wrong moment, probably thinking of the past funny moment during a serious scene, the cinema would be quiet, and then my friend’s Mum would laugh.  Before you could say Jack the Lad the entire cinema would be laughing.  My friend used to get so embarrassed.  

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Ten Ways To Lose Weight The Healthy Way | Sarah Remmer …

I think we all dread the moment when we realize we need to shed extra pounds gained, and sadly that is where I am right now.  So this article is very intrigueing for me, as on the whole I do eat healthily, because I know the benefits of doing so.  Sadly, however, life has a way of getting in between  what we intend doing and what we actually do.  

This last year I have gained almost about 10lbs in weight and it makes me feel most uncomfortable, especially as I have never had a sylph like figure.  This article points out the importance of getting enough sleep, and I have to confess it is this that has helped me gain this extra weight.  I hit a bout of insomnia, and became horrendously depressed and in fact had to get medication to help me through.  Than a Doctor suggested I have a bowl of porridge at night, and yes it has helped wonderfully with the sleep problem, but I find I am not able to lose weight anymore…..

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Whilst noting what the author has to say about getting the required 7 – 8 hours sleep, with which I absolutely agree, I realize I will have to do something about the porridge last thing at night.  The other problem at the moment is we are harvesting our garden, and yes we are eating fresh food, plenty of veggies and salad, which is marvelous, but also potatoes and corn on the cob.  Next year I think I must insist that my husband doesn’t grow either crop, because it is just too hard to refuse.  The other way is to cut back on grain carbohydrates and eat more legumes.

When I was very much younger, I stayed in a hostel for a while and found again I needed to lose weight urgently.  I had no option but to eat cheese ( the triangle cheese in foil variety) water biscuits, and apples during the day, and my evening meal at night – just the meat and veggies without potatoes and gravy.  I soon shed 25lbs of weight doing that, but I was much younger and ones first diet is definitely the easiest.  I totally agree with the author who advocates against yo-yo dieting, as sadly I have always found the moment you go back to eating normally you put all the weight back on, and more.  I am just going to continue what I am eating but smaller portions, and get rid of the porridge at night, and hope that I am able to sleep once more.  I hope the above article gave all readers something to think about, especially if you are concerned about your weight.

If this article interested you, you may like to read a book about The Small Change Diet: 10 Steps to a Thinner, Healthier You by Keri Gans, than click on the link colored in yellow.

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